my wife just had a hyst 7 months ago and has been going thru severe mood swings ahe has been on meds and all but they are still really bad how can i deal with this and help understand her? i hope you can help cause i am not sure i can hadle this anymore.please help!!!!!!!!!!! i love my wife but she is a changed person and i dont know her anymore
Have you talked with your wife about how you feel? Honest open feelings are the best. Maybe you and she can visit the doctor and express your concerns, maybe she isn't on the right meds or maybe there is a different one available with better results, maybe it would be good for both you to get some counseling or something, there are alot of options out there, you need to use them. The most important thing during this time is support from the spouse and if the spouse doesn't understand it's hard to support. I wish you the best and please keep sharing, it helps to share. I will move this topic back to the men's board for you to feel free to talk there. I apologize for my husband not responding to this, but he is in the hospital himself right now and things have been some what crazy here.
TAVH/RSO (cause was supposed to be BSO but the doctor 'couldn't find' the Left side, but 4 weeks later I FOUND IT!), 7/18/02, adhesions, adeno.
Post by lifelongblade on Jul 31, 2003 14:32:42 GMT -5
Hi Ruben (cool name by the way, one of my favourites!). Sorry your message has been moved around so much!lol...but hopefully, you're here to stay.
I'm sorry that you and your wife are having such a hard time. I think for me, I had my hyst three months ago, it's so completely overwhelming that I could barely cope with just me, and didn't give a thought to how those people closest to me were coping. I know that sounds completely selfish, but it's true. It's such a big deal for most woman, it's connected with feminity, sexuality, self confidence...everything.
Anyway, I would try to talk to your wife if i were you. No blaming, but just explain to her what you've told us. That you want to help her and understand what she's going through. Maybe you could show her your post on this site.
Anyway, I wish you good luck. Hopefully once your wife's hormones settle down you'll both start to feel a lot happier. I think open and honest communication is the secret of a happy marriage though. And also that your wife is lucky to have a husband caring enough to seek advice on a site like this. Well done!