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Post by jana on Nov 7, 2003 11:21:20 GMT -5
I found out that a friend that I work with is pregnant. I am having trouble even being in the same room with her...and I don't really know how to tell her how I feel so that she will understand why I am acting the way I am. I have really just quit talking to her. I don't want her to think she has done something wrong but I also don't want to have to dig into these feelings very deep either! It is going to be a long 9 months! Jana
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Post by Francina on Nov 10, 2003 18:33:11 GMT -5
Jana I know you are hurting, and am so sorry that this bothers you. Although you have a child/ren, you might benefit from checking out the site that Lifelongblade found - Childless not by choice. I would like to make a suggestion- perhaps take this woman aside or write her a note - explaining that while you are happy for her - your wounds of no longer being able to have another child are still very fresh and you are having a difficult time with it. You never know she might be very understanding and supportive. Also, talk to your doctor about this and find out if there is a group in your area or a counselling service that helps in this area - because unfortunately while we can no longer have children it is a fact of life that other women still can - and somehow someway, we all need to accept that which we cannot change - for me it was easy because I couldn't have any more children anyway - I still long for another child, but I have been able to accept it. But you are NOT alone hon in feeling this way, and I think maybe others who are here and feeling the same way, may be able to help with telling us how they have coped with these situations.
Know that we are here for you. (((((((Jana))))))))
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Post by Kate on Dec 3, 2003 0:40:51 GMT -5
Jana: I just posted a similiar problem. I don't have any advice, but I want you to know that you are not alone. I am just 2 1/2 post op feel such a loss-my friend is pregnant and it is so hard. Good luck- I wish you the best. -Kate
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Post by jana on Dec 5, 2003 21:57:10 GMT -5
Thanks Kate. Everwhere I look someone is pregnant. It has been nearly a year for me and the pain hasn't faded yet....maybe soon. Jana
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Post by Francina on Mar 16, 2004 19:25:14 GMT -5
Jana,
I am so sorry that this is still so very difficult for you and all the other ladies going through this similar situation. (((((Jana)))))
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Post by jana on Mar 17, 2004 21:27:08 GMT -5
Today we had a shower for my friend and the pain was just about more than I could take....I thought that I was doing so much better....I guess not though.
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Post by jana on Dec 20, 2007 0:43:41 GMT -5
Well I am coming up on 5 years. So many things have changed in my life. The pain of being unable to have kids comes and goes......I am doing really well right now! I miss chatting with everyone!
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Post by Francina on Dec 24, 2007 0:09:32 GMT -5
Hey there Jana, Great to see you - I miss chatting too- Darn job just seems to get in the way I think most women have that feeling that they wish they could have more kids - I know I would have loved more children- but I now have 5 grandchildren to love and spoil - so I am truly blessed - Hope to chat with you soon. Keep in touch! Lub ya!
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