Kate
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Post by Kate on Dec 3, 2003 0:32:23 GMT -5
I am 2 1/2 weeks post hyst and trying to deal with the emotional side-not being able to have children anymore. I called a friend tonight, she is pregnant, and was telling her how much harder it is to heal emotionally than I thought. I do have 3 beautiful children, but am going to get married again and we were planning to have a baby. She reminded me that I have a "full house" already. It really hurt when she said that. Please tell me that someone else understands!! I know that I am lucky, but at the same time I feel robbed. I loved being pregnant and perhaps I am just being emotional, but I feel like no one understands. Help-I am hoping that someone will have some great words of wisdom or just some understanding about this feeling of loss.
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Post by jana on Dec 5, 2003 22:05:54 GMT -5
I do know how you feel. I want more than anything to be pregnant...even though I know I can't be! IT is too hard! ....and many people aren't sensitive about it either! So sorry for this sadness Kate. Hugs and best wishes. Jana
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Post by Francina on Dec 5, 2003 22:12:31 GMT -5
(((Kate))) As I have said many times, I came to accept that which I couldn't change - but it didn't ease the pain of knowing that I could never have another child. If I were younger I KNOW that my pain would have been much more severe. I have one son who is now 20. I wanted 4-6 children - so the loss is so very real. The greiving is different for everyone - the time to greive is also very different. You just have to work it out at your own pace. I think that even if we all had a dozen children we would still feel the same way because we are made to procreate and when that ability is gone, we greive. Praying you and Jana find peace in this and that you both have the ability to share the joys and excitement of friends and family who have a child very very soon. (((((((Jana))))))) ((((((Kate)))))))
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